I talked last week about building your “habit” muscles and the importance of consistency. Did you know you can also build “habit” muscles in terms of your mindset? Here are a few tips for keeping your attitude in check and mindset on track.
1) Focus on the positives, not the negatives. I know when you’re in the midst of it, it’s easy to give yourself over to negative thoughts. I have a tip: don’t over-generalize the negative. In other words, don’t spread the negative beyond the exact situation where it’s happening.
Performing poorly on one test doesn’t mean you’ll never graduate high school, never get a job, and never have a successful career. And don’t minimize the positive. See if you can frame a setback as temporary and situationally-specific rather than a permanent state of being.
You don’t have to have it all figured out to move forward.
2) Don’t ever give up. They always say experience is the harshest teacher because you get the test first, and the lesson afterward. So learn that lesson and move on – and keep moving. Remember, if Plan A doesn’t work, there are still 25 more letters in the alphabet.
Even the tiniest possible step is progress.
3) Don’t compare yourself to others. You are unique and your path is your own. Celebrate the little accomplishments you make every day and don’t worry about what others might be doing. And don’t let social media overwhelm you. Remember, people post their best moments, not their everyday lives. And most people don’t post their unhappy moments, but they’ve got them! We all struggle at different points in our lives, even those whose lives look “perfect” from the outside.
Remember, nothing changes if nothing changes.